Quarrels with your beloved man are inevitable. You and him are two completely different personalities, each with their own views on life, their own code of honor and system of values.
Why do loved ones quarrel?
Where do feelings go at this moment, and is it possible to quickly restore the world at will? 50% of partners often think about this. Psychologists have answers to all questions, including this one. In their opinion, it is quarrels and reconciliation that make it possible to perceive relationships as a result of communication between two - this is natural, like life itself.
Quarrels are often caused by unfulfilled needs, both physiological and social. In fact, a man and a woman want completely opposite things and look at situations in completely different ways.
Naturally, a clash of interests arises, and this clash turns into a quarrel or a full-fledged scandal. But even if you had a fight with your man, he did not become less beloved from this. So, it's time to tell him: "Let's put up with the dear!"
What steps can be taken to reconcile
Magic words: I'm sorry, I'm sorry, I'm sorry, I'm sorry
Apologies often get stuck in our throats. Especially if we think we are right. And here it is important to remember in time that both are always to blame for a quarrel. We began to forget about the magic words "I'm sorry" and "I'm sorry", which can end almost any quarrel and prevent coldness in relationships... Still, pride is more important. But if a woman really values this relationship, then she will definitely find the strength in herself and apologize first.
Why is the first step here left to you? It's simple: it's much harder for a man to do it. Behind the brutal and austere façade, there is often self-doubt and indecision. And the woman here, oddly enough, almost always turns out to be bolder, stronger and wiser. Our "stronger sex" is outrageously weak when it comes to love.
Therefore, when apologizing first, always keep in mind that among the warring North American Indian tribes, the stronger one was always the first to hold out the pipe of the world.
No words? We apologize for deeds
- 1. Remember how in childhood, having been guilty of something, you, without any prodding from your mother, did the cleaning throughout the apartment before her arrival and looked at her with puppy eyes, begging for forgiveness.
It was impossible not to forgive such a sweet creature. And believe me, your man will not resist in the same way as his mother in childhood. Just cleaning the apartment here is no longer enough. The main thing is to pay attention to what words of reconciliation you say and especially how you say: men are sensitive to intonation.
- 2. Give him an unforgettable romantic evening, and then a romantic night.
Your man will definitely appreciate the delicious food (if you don’t know how to cook, you will have to learn) and a relaxing massage. How can you not forgive such an ideal woman?
- 3. Perhaps he asked for something for a long time, but you did not do it or forgot. It's time to remember and fulfill all the promises that you did not keep.
Men value deeds much more than words, so if you get down to business wisely, beg forgiveness without difficulty.
Whether to forgive insult
But if a man realizes that it is he who is to blame, then most likely he will apologize first. Accept them and forgive - they were also difficult for him. If, in addition, they are accompanied by a nice gift or a trip to a restaurant, do not forget to thank. Even if this is a way to make amends to you.
Men avoid too touchy and quarrelsome girls: it is not too pleasant for them to constantly feel guilty about one thing or another. Remember this and forgive your loved ones.
Maybe just not swear?
Yes, the best way to reconcile is to avoid an argument. Agree with your loved one that if you are already on the verge of a quarrel, the conversation ends abruptly and is postponed a couple of days in advance. During this time, both of you will have time to cool down and calmly discuss everything. Trust me, it helps. In such a conversation, you will never express those hot words that can break out in the heat of a quarrel.
You can also appoint a special day once a week to analyze all the negative points. This helps to relieve stress and allows you to more accurately think about what you want to say.
Situations are different, and sometimes it is not enough just to say: “Let's put up!”. But we are sure that you will definitely find a way out and keep peace, harmony, humanity and warmth in your relationship. Especially if both of you are willing to take steps towards each other.
«Love - it's an illusion, but as long as two people believe in it, it exists. "
How difficult or easy it is to forgive depends on the specific case, because to forgive for long-term and systematic bullying or for individual, albeit serious episodes are completely different things.
Do you want to be together? Show more interest in your loved one. By and large, he also sits in his "box" of consciousness, in which he may be just as uncomfortable as you, cold alone. In short, discuss situations, talk and listen to each other.
